About - IFS Therapy for Sensitive Men
Online IFS-Informed Therapy in the UK and across Europe, designed with sensitive and Queer men in mind.
You might have landed here because life feels heavier than it should. Maybe you’ve spent years holding everything together — staying strong, staying capable, staying composed — while inside, different parts of you pull in opposite directions. A part of you wants to keep pushing through, doing what’s expected. Another part is exhausted. Another is angry. Another quietly wonders, “Is this all there is?”
Many of the men I work with come to therapy carrying more than they’ve ever said out loud. They’re sensitive, thoughtful, often deeply self-aware — yet still struggling with stress, overwhelm, loneliness, or the pressure to be “fine.” Some feel disconnected from themselves, unsure how to express what’s happening internally. Others feel a constant tension between who they are, who they were told to be, and who they actually want to become. And for many queer men, there’s an added layer: parts shaped by shame, parts shaped by pride, parts still waiting to be heard.
In therapy, you don’t have to hide any of that. This is a space where all of your inner experiences — the protective parts, the hurting parts, the angry parts, the numb parts — are welcome. My role is to help you understand them, soften the battles happening inside, and reconnect with the version of you who feels grounded, whole, and fully yourself.
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Therapy with me is calm, steady, and spacious. You won’t be judged or pushed faster than you’re ready to go. Instead, you’ll have room to slow down, notice what’s happening inside, and explore your experience at a pace that feels safe.
Many clients describe our work as a relief - a place where they don’t have to perform or hold everything together. You’ll begin to understand the different parts of you with curiosity, not criticism. Protective parts that feel tense or reactive can soften, while quieter, more vulnerable parts finally get the space they’ve been needing.
Over time, what once felt overwhelming becomes more manageable. You start moving through life with more confidence, clarity, and self-respect.
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Therapy with me isn’t about forcing yourself to “get over it,” performing strength, or being told how you should feel. You won’t be judged, analysed harshly, or expected to fit into anyone else’s idea of what healing should look like.
It’s not a place where you have to be impressive, put together, or endlessly vulnerable. And it’s definitely not about fixing you — because you’re not broken. Instead, we focus on understanding the different parts of you with compassion, not criticism.
Therapy isn’t a quick motivational pep talk or a list of solutions to memorise. It’s a steady, supportive process where you make real internal shifts that last.
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This therapy is especially helpful for sensitive men, LGBTQ+ clients, and anyone who feels overwhelmed by shame, self-criticism, or inner conflict. If you’ve ever felt like parts of you are in constant tension — anger, fear, or vulnerability pulling in different directions — this approach can help you understand and care for all of those parts.
You don’t need to have a “problem” figured out or be ready to share everything. The only requirement is a willingness to notice your inner world and explore it safely, at your own pace.
If you’re unsure, a free introductory call is a great way to see if this approach feels right for you.
Book your session here and take the first step toward understanding and self-compassion.
Ready to see what this could look like for you? Book a free introductory call here.
How I Work
I work in a calm, collaborative, and gently structured way. I pay close attention to the different parts of you — the ones that protect, the ones that struggle, and the ones that have been carrying pain for far too long. Rather than pushing you to “fix” yourself or perform resilience, I help you slow down, listen inward, and build a more compassionate relationship with every part of your internal world.
My approach is steady and supportive. I won’t rush you, but I also won’t let you stay stuck. Together, we create a space where your sensitivity becomes a strength, where old patterns loosen, and where you feel more choice, clarity, and ease in your life. My role is to guide, to reflect, and to help you reconnect with the confident, grounded parts of yourself that might feel out of reach right now.
I’m Joe and I’ve been helping people to make sense of life via online counselling since for over 8 years.
My greatest strength has always been my ability to form strong, trusting relationships with other people. Therapy is all about a healing relationship and it is important that you find a therapist who is non-judgemental, supportive and encouraging; I hope to be a therapist who you feel you can trust and rely on.
I trained with both Manchester College for my initial counselling training, and then moved to Bolton College for a more intimate, personalised experience to gain my diploma in Therapeutic Counselling back in 2017.
I have recently integrated Internal Family Systems (IFS) into my approach. IFS therapy can take you much deeper than person centred psychotherapy- and can be an effective way to heal trauma. I trained in IFS over 9 days in a deeply immersive experience with Dr. Zandra Bamford in Lancashire,
What makes me particularly effective in my work as a therapist is that I’m in awe of the strength in us humans and our ability to grow despite the challenges that we face.
I’m an Accredited Registrant with the NCPS and I adhere to their ethical framework in my practice.
My experience and focus is in LGBT therapy and Men’s therapy.
Outside of my work I play in a punk band and I’m a keen runner. I’m inspired by art in its various forms and I’ve always got at least two books on the go!